When I am in a relationship with another and we are in disagreement, to the point that the tension can be felt between us. I find my default mode is defensive, meaning I am listening for each place I disagree; I am framing my response to defend my position. I speak/think, using the metaphors of battle. I am now acting as though one of us is right and the other wrong. This does not usually end well in my experience; and rarely produces something I want. In a relationship when one partner has a problem, both are at the effect. I find it is much easier to talk when we have a problem and we are looking for a way to resolve it.
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Very thought provoking. LOVE YOU THANK U FOR THIS!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteThank you for this! You always know what to say to put things back into perspective for me. When I don't see my next move, you open up new paths that I hadn't seen or accepted.
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